Do you feel like everything’s a mess in your life? Your house, your children, yourself?
Maybe pre-children you had a different vision of how motherhood would look: children happily playing while you folded the laundry or made dinner. You having abundant time to play with them on the floor while you savoured their sweet smiles and giggles.
Then reality hit.
The mess. The chaos. Their never-ending needs and demands. The almost complete lack of time to take care of yourself or your home.
Folded laundry? Ha ha. Maybe when Grandma comes to visit. Mostly it just sits in the laundry basket until the next load needs to be done.
Happily playing on the floor with them? Maybe when you collapse in a heap from exhaustion as they crawl all over you.
This is REAL life here, mamas.
There is no glossy photoshopping of your life.
Your emotions can get messy too. You simply CANNOT enjoy every moment (no matter how often the older generations remind us to).
Moms are human. Humans have a whole range of emotions.
You get angry. You feel anxious about your kids. You sometimes feel like throwing in the motherhood towel and walking out the door and never coming back.
But these are moments. And then you pick up the pieces and just keep going, one moment at a time.
So what about all those pictures you see on Facebook of those perfect-looking moms being perfectly happy enjoying those perfect moments with those perfectly-behaved children? You know the ones I mean.
Are their lives real? Chances are they have many imperfect moments too. They (like most of us) are afraid to share those moments. They (like most of us) want everyone to think they’re doing ok.
But what if we all just dropped the facade? What if we embraced who we really are and how messy our lives sometimes are?
And what if we all came together to support each other through the crazy ups and downs of what is the HARDEST job in the world (that’s motherhood, folks).
Isn’t that really what we’re all yearning for?
True, beautiful, messy authentic connection with each other. An understanding that it’s hard, it can even sometimes be ugly BUT we’re all in it together. And we’re all ok, doing our best, one day at a time.
Embrace your reality. Enjoy your mess. ❤
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Katherine Aucoin, Motherhood Counsellor
Hi Mamas! My name is Katherine and I'm a motherhood counsellor and a mom to two little boys. I'm here to offer tools, insights and support to help you be the best mom you can be for your children AND yourself.