Motherhood. They say that the days are long but the years are short. And you’re supposed to enjoy every darn moment of it.
But what about when you’re right there, right in the middle of it all? And all you want is a few moments of peace?
Once you become a Mother, there’s no turning back.
You’ll never be YOU in quite the same way again. How do you feel about that? Is it sad? Or beautiful? Or just the way it is?
I love the quote by Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh “The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.”.
Do you feel like everything’s a mess in your life? Your house, your children, yourself?
Maybe pre-children you had a different vision of how motherhood would look: children happily playing while you folded the laundry or made dinner. You having abundant time to play with them on the floor while you savoured their sweet smiles and giggles.
Then reality hit.
Do you ever feel like you want to throttle your kids?
Come on, admit it, we all do sometimes.
And IT’S OK.
If you’re dealing with emotional baggage from your past or unhealthy behaviour patterns, it’s really common to worry about your “stuff” being passed down to your children.
The good news is, this doesn’t have to happen… read on...
Why do so many women struggle as new moms?
As a motherhood counsellor, I’ve noticed that it’s an especially big challenge for those women who have had successful careers and then in the blink of an eye (AKA many, many gruelling hours of labour ;) become stay-at-home moms, either on maternity leave or long-term.
As a successful career-minded woman why is it so difficult to transition to being at home with your baby and to really, truly enjoy it?
Do you ever feel confused by all the opinions and ideas about how to raise your baby?
When my first son was a newborn I had my nose buried in baby books and websites trying to figure out How to Be a Mom and I was completely and utterly overwhelmed!!
Many of my clients tell me that relationship issues are a big part of why they are seeking out counselling.
And it makes perfect sense- you now have a little person figuratively (and often literally!) right in between you and your partner.
I hadn’t been around babies much before my first son was born. I had never even changed a diaper.
I didn’t have a clue what I was doing and I was completely, utterly overwhelmed and exhausted.
I spent the time when my baby was napping searching for information in baby books and online like how to breastfeed without my nipples feeling like they would fall off and how to get more sleep (ironic when I Could Have Been Sleeping!)
It’s been another night of 5 hours of interrupted sleep. Or less. Your baby has recently discovered the joys of being awake for the day at 5:30am. You’ve had 2 cups of coffee but you’re still in a total sleep-deprived haze.
And you just have to keep going. All day long.
What’s a mama to do to get through the day?