It’s so easy to become a martyr mom. Your baby is born and then it’s like you forget about yourself…
Shower? When you can fit it in.
Make-up? What’s that?
Doing the things you used to love that bring you joy. Huh? No longer part of your vocabulary.
Does this sound like you? It’s all too common to focus entirely on your baby and forget you have needs too.
Yes, your baby NEEDS you for survival. And yes the way you take care of your own needs will have to change.
But YOU are still important Mama!
You need to take care of yourself for your own benefit AND your baby needs you to be at your best too!
This is the piece that many moms forget… your baby is so much more likely to thrive when you are thriving! The better you’re doing, the easier it will be to take care of your baby
The only thing martyrdom accomplishes is exhaustion, burnout, resentment and sometimes even post-partum depression.
What your baby needs most is you! A (relatively) happy, well-rested mom has soooo much more to give than a tired, burned-out one.
Babies pick up on your energy and how you feel. Happy mama, happy baby ♥
It’s a balancing act. You NEED to feed your baby, change baby, bathe baby, comfort baby when they’re upset.
Before you were a mom, you probably couldn’t imagine how doing all of that could fill your whole day (a full 24-hour day at that!) But it does. You know now that it really does!
Counting yourself in and taking care of your own needs in the middle of it all is a conscious act. And it will need to be something you prioritize and remind yourself of again and again.
Baby is napping? Hubby is home from work? Put down those dirty dishes and take a seat. Take a deep breathe and ask yourself what you really need right now. For you.
Do you really need to sleep? Then take a nap with baby.
Are you yearning to just veg out and watch Netflix? Then do it.
Do you really need some adult conversation? Pick up the phone or get on Skype with an old friend.
The point is: listen to yourself and what really need in a given moment. And it will change. Trust in your body’s wisdom in whatever it’s telling you will help you feel more relaxed and energized.
And then-- magic! You will start to feel like yourself again and you’ll find more energy for those dishes and chores. And of course for your baby.
And you’ll enjoy being with your baby so much more because you’ll have more to give ✿
If you are needing more support in finding ways to Count Yourself In as a new mom, check out my latest workshop for new moms here.
Would you like regular updates with Blossoming Mother Counselling's free tips and insights for new moms? Sign up for my bi-monthly newsletter here.
Katherine Aucoin, Motherhood Counsellor
Hi Mamas! My name is Katherine and I'm a motherhood counsellor and a mom to two little boys. I'm here to offer tools, insights and support to help you be the best mom you can be for your children AND yourself.