Moms are notoriously hard on themselves. That critical voice often leads to mom guilt where it NEVER feels like you’re doing enough. You could read all the parenting books, practice all the techniques, bend over backwards in a thousand ways and mom guilt would still be there telling you that you need to do more.
The antidote is self-compassion. What does it mean to practice self-compassion? Notice that voice inside of you that feels harsh and critical of yourself. Give that voice some love. It’s trying to help you be your best, it just got things a little backwards and now it’s actually getting in the way.
Then choose a different path. Imagine you’re a kind mother to yourself. Like when you’re fully connected to the nurturing, compassionate part of yourself when you’re feeling at your best with your children. Use THAT tone and THOSE words with yourself. You’re doing your best. You are enough. There are SO many ways that you’re already a great mom!
And if there’s something you want to change in your parenting or your life, you can do that without being hard on yourself. Just gently, kindly make a different choice in your words or behaviour. And give yourself a break, metaphorically and in real time. Carrots not sticks work best with our children, and with ourselves too.
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