Do you ever feel confused by all the opinions and ideas about how to raise your baby?
When my first son was a newborn I had my nose buried in baby books and websites trying to figure out How to Be a Mom and I was completely and utterly overwhelmed!!
There are so many ‘Expert” opinions about the 'Right' way to look after a baby-- do you let baby cry-it-out or do you wake up all night with them? Agonize through a painful breastfeeding experience or give it all up to bottle feed? Co-sleep or crib? And if you choose a crib, in your bedroom or in their own room?
In the past, moms more or less raised babies in the way their own mothers did. And their ‘way’ (for better or for worse) was passed down from generation to generation to generation.
There weren't baby books or websites or baby experts or sleep consultants (or even motherhood counsellors ;)
Do these things help us or just leave us more confused and overwhelmed?
After agonizing over How to Be A Mom for far too long (when I could have been bonding with my baby or getting some sleep!), I heard some great advice that still sticks with me.
Listen to your gut. Do what you feel is best. Channel your inner Mother. It doesn't matter what the experts say, what other moms say, what your own mom says.
There's that voice inside of you that knows what's best for you and your baby. But that voice is quiet. You need to slow down and really listen to hear it whispering to you. If you're spinning in circles in the middle of overwhelm you won't hear it.
So mamas, get back into bed or take a seat on the couch. Hold your baby. Take a deep breath, relax and listen. Remember all the moms who have come before you (without the benefit of baby books) and Trust Yourself.
If you need more help learning to access your intuition and trust yourself as a mama, I'm here to help. You can find out more about Blossoming Mother Counselling’s services here and you can contact me directly here.
Katherine Aucoin, Motherhood Counsellor
Hi Mamas! My name is Katherine and I'm a motherhood counsellor and a mom to two little boys. I'm here to offer tools, insights and support to help you be the best mom you can be for your children AND yourself.