As mothers, we want to give our children the world. It's culturally acceptable to self-sacrifice to the point of exhaustion, depletion and burnout. And we tell ourselves we're doing it for them. But are we?
What does that mama-martydom give to our children? It certainly doesn't model to them healthy adulthood. And what children need most beyond their basic survival needs is a strong connection with at least one adult in their lives. Can you connect well with your children when you're exhausted and depleted? I know I can't. When I'm feeling fulfilled and joyful I have so much more to give in my relationships with my children.
Obviously when you become a mother some sacrifices need to be made. Life will never be the same and your time won't fully be your own like it once was. But it is possible to count yourself in and OFTEN that involves doing a very culturally-UNacceptable thing: asking for help and allowing yourself to receive to give yourself the time and space to fill your own cup.
Do you want to give your children the best chance to one day thrive as adults (even when they have their own children)? Do you want close, connected relationships with your children so they feel safe, secure and loved? Then your own well-being HAS to be in the mix.
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