What's your relationship with your emotions? Do you stuff them down, telling yourself you're fine? Or do you distract, avoid or numb out by turning to your phone, t.v., busyness or a couple of glasses of wine after dinner? These are all common ways people "deal" with emotions because most of have never been taught how to truly work through them in a healthy way!
And (in case you hadn't noticed ;) motherhood can bring up A LOT of emotions. Our kids really know how to push our buttons and often our partner does too. As hard as this can be, it's actually a really great opportunity to connect with ourselves, learn about our needs, and grow and evolve!
As a counsellor, big emotions get me excited because there is so much opportunity for growth and healing once we finally allow ourselves to feel.
So take a few deep breaths and notice how you're feeling right now. Notice the sensations in your body and how they're connected to your emotions. Bring acceptance to them. Allow them to be. Create space around them and bring some self-compassion to them.
Whether you're feeling anger, sadness, joy, frustration, disappointment or something else... ALL of your emotions are ok and part of your human experience!
What are your emotions trying to tell you? Is your frustration a signal that you need more alone time and space from you kids? Is that empty, sad feeling in your heart telling you that you miss the time you used to spend with your girlfriends before becoming a mother, and you need more social time now? Is the anger you're feeling with your partner for not helping out enough a sign that you're feeling alone and unsupported and it's time to take some steps to ask for help?
There are so many possible messages your emotions could be sending you. Stay open and curious. Let yourself feel and express when you have a few minutes to yourself.
And what steps can you take to meet your emotional needs? It might not be obvious at first, but focus on self-compassion and self-love when connecting to your emotions and their message may become apparent.
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